Just
because God loves life doesn’t mean that he intends for every person to come
into being.
Wait.
What?
Just
because God loves life doesn’t mean that he intends for every person to come
into being.
Some
people will read that and conclude that if God does not intend for some people
to be born, then some people are not wanted by God. Nothing could be further from the truth but
in order to see why, we have to think carefully.
Consider
this example: If a birthmother chooses to give up her baby for adoption, it has
nothing at all to do with the goodness of the child. Many of those children will assume they were
adopted because their birthmother didn’t want them or that they weren’t good
enough, or that something was wrong with them.
Many suffer for years until they understand that their birthmother wasn’t
keeping them even if they were
perfect. Birthmothers give up their
children because they are unwilling or unable to be a parent. Their choice has nothing to do with the perceived
“goodness” of their child. Often,
birthmothers would like nothing more than to keep their child but understand
that, for a variety or reasons, they cannot.
Giving a
child up for adoption has nothing to do with being “wanted” and neither does
rape. Just because God doesn’t intend
for a woman to become pregnant as a result of rape, doesn’t mean that God will
not love the child that is produced.
He does.
I am the
fourth child in my family. I was born
five years after my next older brother.
It is well known that my parents thought they were done having children.
I was an accident. My existence is unintended but I have never
had any doubt that my parents welcomed me, wanted me and loved me since the moment
that they knew I was coming.
God does
not want women to be raped nor does he want them to suffer the
emotional trauma that will follow them through an unexpected and unwanted
pregnancy. Even so, that does not mean
that he does not love and value that child from the moment of its conception.
He does.
What’s
left to us, is an unwanted choice between two unpleasant outcomes. We must choose between the emotional and psychological
pain and suffering that will inevitably come with the pregnancy, and the
destruction of that unique and valuable life that has been created as well as
the emotional and psychological pain and suffering follows that choice.
Neither choice is a good one.
This is a complicated
and difficult theological problem.