Six Ways to Get Unfollowed on Twitter

    People follow one another on Twitter (and unfollow) for a lot of reasons, but in my book, these six things will get you unfollowed pretty quickly.

1)      Post too many times a day -  My general rule of thumb is that most people can post five times a day.  Even ten is acceptable if you have something really good to say, or if there is some special event that you are live tweeting.  But once you start crowding my feed, you are a target.

2)      Post too many times in a row – Some people post five or ten tweets in a row.  Sometimes it is a bunch of separate things all sent at once, and other times someone strings a long post into five or ten tweets.  If you want to blog, write a blog.  Either way, if you do it very often, I’m probably not going to follow you.

3)      Post too many pictures – I know everyone says that pictures attract attention, but if all you do is post a bunch of pictures, posters or memes on my feed, I’m probably not going to follow you.

4)      Post Off topic – I generally follow people because I am interested in what they post.  I completely understand that we are all human and a little “human interest” is fine.  The occasional post about your kids, or your nice dinner is okay, but if you say that your posts are about science, religion, business or whatever, and spend most of your time posting about something else, your days on my list might be numbered.

5)      Post ads – I understand that many of us are on social media to promote our place of business, books, or even ourselves.  But if all I ever see are ads instead of useful content, I’m probably not going to follow you.

6)      Post “click-bait” – We all have a variety of interests and occasionally we find interesting things that we want to share, but if the majority of your posts are links to “click-bait” advertising that looks like “Wow! Look at this Crazy Stuff!”  I’m probably not going to follow you.

    

I'm sure that  missed a few.

What have people done that made you unfollow them?

I tweet primarily about church, faith and religion, but also science, technology, the space program and the human condition.  And of course, a few about my kids.  Follow me @PastorPartridge

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Six Degrees of Social Media Separation

    In the last few decades, there has been much talk about “Six Degrees of Separation,” which is the idea that any person in the world can be introduced to any other person in the world, by being introduced through our networks of friends.  Statisticians have demonstrated that anyone in the US can be introduced to almost anyone else in the US by going through only two or three friends.  But as often as we hear such things, it is still amazing when it happens “in real life.”

    This week I received a private message on Facebook from a woman I never met.  And that was the beginning (or possibly the end) of an unusual series of connections through my life and through social media.  To understand the connections that led to this message, let me go back in time to high school.

    After my eighth grade year, my parents moved to the south side of Akron, Ohio.  At our new church I met Keith and Jamie Weaver, who would, within the next few years, depart for Kenya, East Africa as missionaries through Africa Inland Mission where they would serve for twenty five years.  After I graduated from college and began working in Cleveland, I was back at that same church and reconnected with Keith and Jamie during their occasional visits home. 

    When the time came for them to consider a return to the states, our church realized that no one (other than their children) had ever had the opportunity to visit them in Kenya.  Two women, Sandi, and my wife, Patti, volunteered and along with our missions committee, we decided that we would raise the funds to send them. 

    While Patti and Sandi were in Kenya visiting Keith and Jamie, they met Steve and Nancy Peifer.  Nancy was the librarian at Rift Valley Academy; Steve was the guidance counselor and also ran a feeding program at local Kenyan schools (Kenya Kids Can).

    With that as background, we return to the funeral preparations for my father.  As soon as it was available, I posted his obituary on my Facebook page and many friends, including Steve Peifer, posted their condolences. 

    The next day I had a private message.  The woman who sent that message acknowledged that we had never met. She had seen my name pop up when Steve had written on the link to my father’s obituary and it had seemed familiar.  She followed the link, read the obituary, realized who my father was, printed it, and showed it to her parents.

    What we discovered was that our fathers had sung together in college, he had been the best man in my parent’s wedding and my father had been the best man in theirs.  Our parents had exchanged letters and cards, but over the years had lost touch with one another.  She sent me a current photo of her parents to give to my mother, and I sent a current address so that they could send their condolences and reconnect.  My Mom was a little stunned when I handed her the photo and explained who it was.

    I know that we live in a connected world, but it was still exciting to see old friends reconnect because of two children on the Internet, two missionaries to Africa, an obituary, and social media.

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Youth Questions: How Does God Speak to Us?

Note: Not long ago I asked our youth to write down any questions that they had about faith, the church, or life in general and I would answer them during later group meetings.  This is the first of that series.

Question: I don’t get the whole “God will tell you what to do” thing (ex. What career, etc.)

    It’s been a while since they were popular, but not too many years ago, everyone was wearing bracelets and t-shirts that said “WWJD” which stands for “What Would Jesus Do?”  Wearing them was supposed to be a daily reminder to make the kind of choices that Jesus would make in your place. The difficulty is not in wearing the bracelets and not in remembering to ask ourselves what Jesus would do, the difficulty is really in having some idea of what it is that Jesus would actually do.

   This question deals with the same problem.  Too often adults like to tell young people that “God will tell you what to do” or “God will lead you to the right career” or the right job, or whatever.  But how does that happen?  Few of us have ever heard God speak in an audible voice, so how is God supposed to tell us these things? 

    Honestly, the adults in church are probably just as confused about this as you are.  In answer, let’s begin by reading 1 Corinthians 2:6-16…

⁶ We do, however, speak a message of wisdom among the mature, but not the wisdom of this age or of the rulers of this age, who are coming to nothing. ⁷ No, we declare God’s wisdom, a mystery that has been hidden and that God destined for our glory before time began. ⁸ None of the rulers of this age understood it, for if they had, they would not have crucified the Lord of glory. ⁹ However, as it is written:

“What no eye has seen,
    what no ear has heard,
and what no human mind has conceived”—
    the things God has prepared for those who love him—

¹⁰ these are the things God has revealed to us by his Spirit.

The Spirit searches all things, even the deep things of God. ¹¹ For who knows a person’s thoughts except their own spirit within them? In the same way no one knows the thoughts of God except the Spirit of God. ¹² What we have received is not the spirit of the world, but the Spirit who is from God, so that we may understand what God has freely given us. ¹³ This is what we speak, not in words taught us by human wisdom but in words taught by the Spirit, explaining spiritual realities with Spirit-taught words. ¹⁴ The person without the Spirit does not accept the things that come from the Spirit of God but considers them foolishness, and cannot understand them because they are discerned only through the Spirit. ¹⁵ The person with the Spirit makes judgments about all things, but such a person is not subject to merely human judgments, ¹⁶ for,

“Who has known the mind of the Lord
    so as to instruct him?”

But we have the mind of Christ.

    What we learn here is that, as believers of Jesus Christ, we are connected by the Spirit of God to the source of infinite wisdom.  When we became believers in Jesus Christ, put our trust in him and were baptized, something happened to us.  Baptism isn’t just about what we do, but also about something that God does.  When we became followers of Jesus and were baptized, God sent his Spirit to inhabit us, to live inside of us.  What Paul is saying is that because the Spirit of God lives inside of us, and because the Spirit of God knows the mind of God, God is able to speak to us and to tell us things that we had no other way of knowing.  We are, through the Spirit, connected to the infinite mind of God.

But we can carry that thought a little further and peel back another layer. 

We can also know the mind of Christ in an even deeper way.

    If you have a close friend, you can probably finish each other’s sentences.  You can stop and buy them lunch or an ice cream cone without asking them what they want, because you know what they would order.  You have taken up space in their mind, and they have taken up space in yours.  This is what it means to “have the mind of Christ.”  When you read the Bible and spent time in prayer on a regular basis, you begin to know Jesus in a deep and personal way similar to the way that you know your best friend.  When that happens, although you might not know what kind of ice cream Jesus would order, you do begin to know what sorts of choices that he would, or would not, make.

In Romans 8:5-6, Paul says…

⁵ Those who live according to the flesh have their minds set on what the flesh desires; but those who live in accordance with the Spirit have their minds set on what the Spirit desires. ⁶ The mind governed by the flesh is death, but the mind governed by the Spirit is life and peace.

    Because the Spirit of God lives within us, and, as we begin to grow closer to Jesus and increasingly “have the mind of Christ,” our minds become set on what the Spirit desires.  What we want begins to look more and more like the things that God wants. 

    Finally, there is a scripture that people often people take out of context and claim for themselves.  In Jeremiah 29:11, God makes a promise specifically to Jeremiah and the people of Israel who have been taken captive into Babylon, but even though it is a promise to them, it reveals God’s heart toward his people.

¹¹ For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

    We can’t say that God made this particular promise to you and that God wants you to be rich, but we can say that God does not make plans to harm you.  We know that God wants what is best for his people.  For these reasons, we “borrow” Jeremiah’s promise and we’re not too far wrong.  That doesn’t mean that bad things won’t happen.  After all, this promise came to Jeremiah after he watched the destruction of his nation and his people carried off into slavery.  What this means is that even when life doesn’t go the way that you thought it was going to go, even when bad stuff happens, God is in control, God has a plan, so instead of complaining about how God abandoned you, you ought to be looking for what God might be trying to teach you through those particular circumstances.

    While God wants what is best for you, sometimes in order to get from where you are, to where God wants you to be, God may take you through some painful places.  I used to be an engineer.  I had a good job, a nice house and a good life.  But when God called me to leave engineering and become a pastor the process was painful. I spent two years unemployed, we moved, sold our house, and I spend five years in school fifteen years after I thought I was done with my education.

    God may not call you to be a pastor or a missionary, but God has given each of you skills and gifts that are unique to you.  Each of you will go places and meet people that no one else will.  Wherever you go, and whatever you do, God has sent you there.

    When you have the mind of Christ, you will naturally be drawn to the things that God wants for you.  And sometimes, God gives you choices.  I have had friends go crazy trying to discern which of three job offers “God wanted” for them until a good friend and mentor suggested that maybe all of them were “God’s will” and God was allowing them to pick what sounded like the most fun and rewarding.  When you have major life choices to make, it is important to spend some time in scripture, prayer and in silence, listening to what God might have to tell you.  And sometimes after doing so, you will know what you should do, but other times, if you have done all these things and God is simply not sending you a message one way or the other, feel free to use your best judgment and pick what you think is best, or what would be the most fun.

After all, God loves you and wants what is best for you.



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Mixed Messages

    Have you ever received mixed messages?  In high school a friend included me during youth group but at school… not so much.  Our social groups were far too different.  Many of us have had bosses that told us how great we were only to say something completely different during our annual review in order to justify crappy raises.  Of course, politicians do this all the time.  It’s hard to know what we should do when the folks who preach about “reducing our carbon footprint” live in gigantic mansions and fly on private jets. 

Mixed messages are confusing and undermine credibility.

So why do we send mixed messages to our children about church?

    We take our children to church, we make sure they get to Sunday school and Vacation Bible School, we take them to youth meetings, Christian concerts, missionary programs, to church camp in the summer.  We tell them that their decisions about church and Jesus Christ are the most important decisions that they will make in their lives.  We tell them that it is important to live our lives like Jesus.

And then we act as if none of that matters.

You don’t think so? 

    What about all the times that we complain about being overcharged and stand in line for 20 minutes to get a dollar back from customer service, but when we get undercharged we simply rejoice and go home?

    What about all the times we do questionable math or take sketchy deductions on our taxes?

Or react in anger instead of “turning the other cheek?”

Or insist that the poor are just lazy so that we don’t have a reason to help them.

    Or say that church attendance is important… unless we have a sporting event, or a cultural event, or a work conflict, or voluntary overtime, or a family event, or a thousand other things that we have shown our children are more important by our actions, if not by our words.

    We can't teach that abortion is evil and then condemn single moms who decided not to have one.

    What about the political candidates (and parties) that we support despite their obviously unbiblical positions, character, morals and actions?

    We teach our children that pornography is bad, but half of all Christian men and one in five Christian women view porn on a regular basis.  

    We proclaim that our church welcomes everyone but turn away people who don't fit in because they aren't like us.

Which is it?

We can’t teach our children one thing and do something else. 

They’re smarter than that.

    Worse, we run the risk receiving the same condemnation as the church in Laodicea to whom Jesus said, “^I know your deeds, that you are neither cold nor hot. I wish you were either one or the other! So, because you are lukewarm—neither hot nor cold—I am about to spit you out of my mouth.”

Are we hot?  Or are we cold? 

Pick one.

    We need to quit giving our kids mixed messages.  They hate it as much as we do and it undermines our credibility.

We need to live like we believe.